>> What would you say if someone said,
as a career -- working woman,
that you can't have it all. What do you say to that?
>> I don't know. I mean, I feel like you can have it all.
But I'm speaking from a different position,
because it's just me.
I'm not married. I don't have kids.
And I know that brings an entirely different dynamic.
But I do believe that that's a place
that I'd like to be at some point.
And I believe I can have it all.
You know, men have it all.
So why can't women, you know?
I think it just takes balancing and prioritizing, setting goals
and realizing that one person's path
is not necessarily everyone's path.
So just because you maybe did it one way,
or in a certain number of years,
it doesn't mean that I have to achieve the same goals
in the same number of years, you know?
I may have to be a group supervisor for 10 years,
someone had to do it for two years.
But whatever it is, just realize that your path is your path.
And just continue trying to achieve it.
It's possible.
>> Well, so the attorney in me is sitting here thinking,
what does it mean to "have it all?"
And it's different for everyone.
I think that everyone has priorities.
It's a zero sum game, right?
You have X-amount of hours in a day.
You prioritize between your work, your personal life,
whether it be family or interests.
I do think, though, as we strive
to gain more leadership positions
in terms of women in general,
that's a question
that we'll have to continually ask ourselves:
What are our priorities?
How do we want to balance our ambitions and career progression
with perhaps responsibility at work?
I see that in my own home.
I see it in my friends' homes,
in terms of reaching out to their spouses
and asking for help,
and having a mutual understanding
as to what the priorities are.
You know, "having it all,"
it sounds like an impossible task to take on.
But I think what is truly important
is to follow your passion,
if you're really passionate about the job that you do,
if you have ambition and motivations.
Just go for it. Do your best. Try to achieve that.
Don't lose sight of other things
that you may be passionate about,
be it family or hobbies and whatnot.
But that's something that we're just going to
continue to struggle with, I believe.
And hopefully, with more and more women
in the workforce in leadership positions, it will get easier.
>> Well, as the oldest one here, I can safely say that,
and my daughters are --
I have two girls, they're 28 and 25.
So I feel like I can come from a place of having
lived through the different stages of,
what does it mean to "have it all?"
And I look at the measure of my success at this point in my life
is not so much where I am in my professional career,
although I'm very blessed, very thankful,
I take it very seriously.
But I look at the impact that it made on my daughters,
and where they are in their lives now.
And so I can tell you from the older one here
that on the one hand,
it's not so much the here
and now that you can have it all.
It's just eventually, you will have it all,
because life is about phases and seasons and chapters.
And so, you know, if you do make a decision,
it's about making decisions, too.
If it's that -- and again,
I speak from the priority in my life
as being a mom, it's, okay, I had kids.
So I had to slow down my career progression a few times.
But I always knew ultimately what I wanted to pursue,
to your point.
So I knew in myself the competence,
learning from my grandmother,
that in time, that's in me, and it will come back.
But right now, the focus is in making sure that my daughters --
probably what your mom was thinking, too --
that they have what they need,
and the sacrifices I made for them.
And I love to share a couple of the stories with them,
and they hear it five thousand times,
but the things that I did during my career for their good, right?
So now I can look back and say I do have it all,
because with guidance,
I just learned to -- you know, at the time,
I have this many hours in the day.
I've got one daughter that's a competitive dancer,
the other one's soccer. I have this stack of work.
I have this opportunity, go into this detail,
and they all require the same amount of time.
So how am I going to juggle all of those things?
So eventually it is about having it all.
It's just you have to understand in yourself,
you're competing against yourself.
And I think a lot of times,
what women do in the professional world
is, men, what drives men.
It's just the whole power.
You tend to have people, as you move up in ranks.
There's got to be some ego to that, some ambition.
So the difference with women is,
we tend to compare ourselves to the next woman over.
It's, like, well, you've got kids, I've got kids.
Or, I'm a bad mom,
my kids are going to grow up to be axe murderers
because I decided to go on this detail.
I mean, that's how we think. It's true.
And you have to learn, and I tell my girls now,
just think about what's right for you, and don't compare.
Because that will hinder, about, do you have it all?
And then you might lose some things along the way,
and want to do it, and think twice about it.