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>> What would you say
if someone said,

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as a career --
working woman,

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that you can't have it all.
What do you say to that?

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>> I don't know. I mean, I feel
like you can have it all.

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But I'm speaking from
a different position,

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because it's just me.

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I'm not married.
I don't have kids.

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And I know that brings
an entirely different dynamic.

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But I do believe
that that's a place

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that I'd like to be
at some point.

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And I believe I can have it all.

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You know, men have it all.

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So why can't women, you know?

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I think it just takes balancing
and prioritizing, setting goals

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and realizing that
one person's path

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is not necessarily
everyone's path.

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So just because
you maybe did it one way,

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or in a certain
number of years,

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it doesn't mean that I have
to achieve the same goals

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in the same number
of years, you know?

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I may have to be a group
supervisor for 10 years,

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someone had to do it
for two years.

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But whatever it is, just realize
that your path is your path.

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And just continue
trying to achieve it.

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It's possible.

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>> Well, so the attorney in me
is sitting here thinking,

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what does it mean
to "have it all?"

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And it's different
for everyone.

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I think that everyone
has priorities.

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It's a zero sum game, right?

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You have X-amount
of hours in a day.

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You prioritize between
your work, your personal life,

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whether it be family
or interests.

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I do think, though, as we strive

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to gain more
leadership positions

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in terms of women in general,

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that's a question

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that we'll have to
continually ask ourselves:

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What are our priorities?

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How do we want to balance our
ambitions and career progression

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with perhaps
responsibility at work?

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I see that in my own home.

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I see it in my friends' homes,

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in terms of reaching out
to their spouses

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and asking for help,

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and having
a mutual understanding

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as to what the priorities are.

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You know, "having it all,"

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it sounds like an
impossible task to take on.

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But I think what is
truly important

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is to follow your passion,

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if you're really passionate
about the job that you do,

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if you have ambition
and motivations.

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Just go for it. Do your best.
Try to achieve that.

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Don't lose sight of other things

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that you may be
passionate about,

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be it family or
hobbies and whatnot.

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But that's something
that we're just going to

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continue to struggle
with, I believe.

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And hopefully,
with more and more women

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in the workforce in leadership
positions, it will get easier.

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>> Well, as the oldest one here,
I can safely say that,

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and my daughters are --

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I have two girls,
they're 28 and 25.

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So I feel like I can come
from a place of having

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lived through
the different stages of,

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what does it mean to
"have it all?"

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And I look at the measure of my
success at this point in my life

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is not so much where I am
in my professional career,

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although I'm very blessed,
very thankful,

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I take it very seriously.

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But I look at the impact
that it made on my daughters,

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and where they are
in their lives now.

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And so I can tell you
from the older one here

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that on the one hand,

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it's not so much the here

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and now
that you can have it all.

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It's just eventually,
you will have it all,

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because life is about phases
and seasons and chapters.

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And so, you know,
if you do make a decision,

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it's about
making decisions, too.

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If it's that -- and again,

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I speak from
the priority in my life

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as being a mom,
it's, okay, I had kids.

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So I had to slow down my career
progression a few times.

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But I always knew ultimately
what I wanted to pursue,

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to your point.

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So I knew in myself
the competence,

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learning from my grandmother,

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that in time, that's in me,
and it will come back.

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But right now, the focus is in
making sure that my daughters --

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probably what your mom
was thinking, too --

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that they have what they need,

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and the sacrifices
I made for them.

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And I love to share a couple
of the stories with them,

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and they hear it
five thousand times,

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but the things that I did during
my career for their good, right?

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So now I can look back
and say I do have it all,

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because with guidance,

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I just learned to --
you know, at the time,

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I have this many hours
in the day.

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I've got one daughter
that's a competitive dancer,

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the other one's soccer.
I have this stack of work.

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I have this opportunity,
go into this detail,

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and they all require
the same amount of time.

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So how am I going to juggle
all of those things?

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So eventually it
is about having it all.

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It's just you have
to understand in yourself,

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you're competing
against yourself.

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And I think a lot of times,

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what women do
in the professional world

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is, men, what drives men.

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It's just the whole power.

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You tend to have people,
as you move up in ranks.

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There's got to be some ego
to that, some ambition.

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So the difference with women is,

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we tend to compare ourselves
to the next woman over.

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It's, like, well,
you've got kids, I've got kids.

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Or, I'm a bad mom,

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my kids are going to grow up
to be axe murderers

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because I decided to go
on this detail.

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I mean, that's how we think.
It's true.

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And you have to learn,
and I tell my girls now,

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just think about what's right
for you, and don't compare.

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Because that will hinder,
about, do you have it all?

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And then you might lose
some things along the way,

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and want to do it,
and think twice about it.